Trying to get Pregnant

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Violet posted this 19 April 2019

I really want a baby but my Boyfriend doesn't , he thinks he is still to young, he is 24 by the way, Do you think it will cause issues if I decide to have a baby , without telling him? WIll he be  able to get over it?  I don't want to lose him but I want to have a baby.

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becky posted this 19 April 2019

I highly suggest not trying to have a baby without telling him. Its misleading and you dont want that in your relationship.

how long have you been together?

If you both arent on the same page its probably not a good idea. 

the last thing you want to do is get pregnant and he doesn't support you during that time! 

It came make things very hard for you and even your baby!

Kira posted this 30 May 2019

Relationships should be built on trust! It could ruin everything if he ever found out. 24 is young yes but honestly nobody is every truly "ready" for a baby from what i understand. I could not imagine getting pregnant without my husband knowing. I suggest you talk things through and if he doesn't want one, maybe time for you to find someone else with more compatible views. 

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Hannah posted this 31 May 2019

YES, that will cause issues. You need to discuss it.  He IS young, you have time.  I had my kids young, and I can guarantee you it's not something you want to rush into!  You will do a child a lot of damage by starting things this way. 

Amanda posted this 17 September 2019

It will absolutely cause problems. Not just in your relationship but with your future child. Your boyfriend may come around but at the end of the day is losing him worth the risk? I would start asking yourself is it your boyfriend you want or just a baby and he can technically give you that. If its just the baby find someone who actually wants to have a baby to and you and the child will  be more happy. Pregnancy is hard on a solid stable relationship never mind one where only partner wanted the child. 

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Carmen posted this 30 September 2019

Please do not do this. It was definitely cause more issues than 1. 

Beth posted this 20 October 2019

I understand wanting to have one and your partner not being on board. But definitely don't try to make it happen without telling him - it'll cause more issues from my experience and what I've seen. I'd just give it some time...my boyfriend wasn't on board for awhile but then all of a sudden he started talking about having kids and finally opened up to the idea. 

Wendy posted this 20 October 2019

That's definitely not ok. Sounds like the two of you need to sit down and actually see if you want the same things out of life, especially since you're not married. Is it that he doesn't want kids right now? Or doesn't want kids at all? If he doesn't want kids at all, and you do, then it might be time to have a serious discussion about whether this is the right relationship for you both.