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Diane posted this 19 June 2019

Personal opinions on bed sharing with baby?

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Marcy posted this 19 June 2019

Depends how old, I guess? We were against it. But now my daughter is two with night terrors and she comes into our room every night. Ah, we dont want to make a bad habit out of it but she's afraid. It's up to you. Sometimes you find that you sleep better with them in bed, especially if they're young. Anything to keep your sanity I think. you do what's best for you. Your pediatrician might advice you against it, but talk to them and see if they can recommend a safer way to do it. 

Dorine posted this 19 June 2019

I have a cousin who shared her bed with each of her 4 children until they were 2 years old. It made her feel like they were safer directly in her view. They are older now and each sleep on their own beds just fine.

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Jill posted this 19 June 2019

I am 900% positive that my husband would roll over and suffocate my kids, so I haven't done it.  Also, I realized I need my space (because sometimes I think he'll roll over and suffocate me too haha).   I don't think there is anything wrong with it if it works for your family.

Courtney posted this 19 June 2019

I feel like it's pretty widely acknowledged to be unsafe by "the medical community" but my kid's pediatrician told me to put her to sleep on her stomach, even though that's also considered unsafe, and I did it and now she's an excellent sleeper, so I agree. If you do it safely and it works for your family, that's great.

Davie posted this 19 June 2019

I have a newborn baby boy. He is 5 days old and I've slept with him since day one. I'm too paranoid to put him in his crib because of fear of SIDS. The down-side is my lack of sleep because I keep checking in on him, but at the same time I think either way I would have lack of sleep from having to get up to check on him. Everybody is different, just do what you think is safest for your baby. That's what I'm doing, even though I know there are risks but I still feel he's safer next to me because there's risks either way. 

Nydia posted this 21 June 2019

Much like the comment above, I’ve slept with my daughter in my bed quite a bit since day one. I never had any trouble with it and she is now 7 months and still sometimes falls to sleep with me. I think the whole controversy is unnecessary because everyone has their personal preference. I wouldn’t let my daughter sleep with her dad bc he’s a heavy sleeper but our bed is big enough for me and the baby to have a little more than half lol. SIDS is also a big reason for me sleeping with my daughter. I think it’s a good idea  

Chloe posted this 22 June 2019

We share a bed with our toddler on most nights, too. She was never the best sleeper and I found that when she stayed in our bed, she would sleep through the night. Also, I wouldn’t have to get up to check on her or (when she was a baby) to nurse her. To sleep or not to sleep? My answer was easy! 😴 

Abbie posted this 22 June 2019

I think sharing a bed with a toddler is a lot different than with a baby. My husband and I are both heavy sleepers and were terrified of hurting our daughter as an infant. He is also an EMT and has seen babies suffocated in a parents bed. As a toddler they are strong enough to protect themselves.

Olivia posted this 24 June 2019

We used a bassinet in our room at first, then moved on to a co-sleeper that attached to the side of our bed. When our baby was old enough to do so, he started crawling into our bed and sleeping with us anyways. We bought a rail to attach to our bed so that he doesn't fall off the bed and he switches between his own bed and our bed throughout the week. Depends on how he's feeling and how tired he is. 

Angie posted this 24 June 2019

I am currently expecting and have weighed the options. I'm with one of the other women with the fact that my husband would most definitely roll over and suffocate our baby. He is a very deep sleeper and even when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he is not fully aware of what is happening. On the other hand, I am very paranoid and I'm not sure if I will be able to sleep without my baby in the room. We are currently debating on using a bassinet or cradle for use in the bedroom, although he is mainly against it. He believes that babies that sleep with or in the same room as their parents will not be okay sleeping in their own room once they are older. 

Overall, I was told not to be too concerned in the first month or so, as most of the sleep that I will get will be whenever the baby is asleep. Which could be once I put him down in his crib or if I am exhausted after feeding and were both asleep on the couch.  

Veronica posted this 25 June 2019

I absolutely never sleep with my baby. Everyone says that they are fine and sure it is great until it is no longer fine and the other side of that is a tragedy.

Anna posted this 06 July 2019

I was almost positive I would sleep with mine in the bed, at least for a couple months. Nope - turns out I was SO paranoid about the blanket being over her face, or rolling onto her, that I couldn't sleep at aaaall. She slept in our room until she was over 3 months old (it is better, sleep studies show, if they're at least in the same room with you for the first few months), and then only right outside our door (again, because I woke up at every sound she made during the night). With my second, I bought a Halo bassinet that is high enough to be on the same level with my bed. If I need to sleep with my arm inside her bassinet, I will but will avoid the paranoid wakings! My now toddler, on the other hand, does occasionally get up in the middle of the night with nightmares, and we let her sleep the rest of the night with us. I think it depends on you, your partner, your baby, and your bed! (softness/blankets/size/etc)

Star posted this 06 July 2019

I'm a very light sleeper. I tried to be diligent with my first about putting him in a crib. But I found it easier to have him in bed while I was nursing. As a toddler sometimes he sleeps in his room but most of the time in my bed. My youngest has virtually never slept in his own space. It works for us.

Anna posted this 10 July 2019

Our 2 year old has been for the past couple of months, wanting to be in our bed SOMETIMES. For awhile there, he would wake up anywhere between 2am and 4am and now he's tapered off a bit.  He will sleep through the night in his crib alone, but then wake up early if anything at about 6am - have some milk - then lay with us in bed and fall asleep for another hour or two.  Sometimes, and we are ok with it since it's not all of the time.  In this case then we all get decent sleep.  He actually does well, stays right in the middle and there is nothing in his way. 

Alyssa posted this 18 July 2019

I share a bed with my little and have almost everyday since she was born. She hates sleeping in the bassinet and she'll cry and cry and cry but as soon as I lay her down in our bed she stops.

Patti posted this 18 July 2019

I was always told it was best not to co-sleep, but I have to admit we've done it while on vacation (and no crib was available), and it worked out just fine. I also have a kid that sleeps exceptionally well in almost any condition. 

Ruth posted this 18 July 2019

I haven't done it because honestly I was afraid of squishing my baby. But I know people who do it and they love it. I'd probably really enjoy the cuddle time, but I feel safer putting him in a bassinet by my bed instead.

Nina posted this 19 July 2019

I would advise against it as a consistent practice.  That said, anytime I fell asleep with my kids in my bed, they slept like angels next to me, so if you're at the end of your rope and really just need a little sleep, just be extremely careful.  That said, after caving and letting my first son into our bed sometime around five months when he had his first cold/fever, we basically ruined months of good sleep habits within a week and it took us nearly a year to get him completely out of our bed.


To those mentioning putting baby in their own room from the beginning, do keep in mind that while it is not recommended to share a bed with your baby, it is recommended that babies sleep in your room for at least the first six months.  I moved both of my boys into their own rooms around 12 weeks, but I would not have been comfortable any sooner than that.

Heather posted this 31 July 2019

I think bed sharing at a safe age is totally fine. Research has shown that it does not have negative effects. It actually make your child more trusting and independent based on studies. If you want to share your bed with your children go for it. You will be wishing you could have those moments back when they get older. 

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Janelle posted this 31 July 2019

I'm terrified to try it because I'm a very heavy sleeper, but I have some friends who have their babies in bed with them in a dock-a-tot or something similar and it works well! 

Alexius posted this 06 August 2019

I co-sleep with my baby. I know I shouldn’t but honestly it isn’t hurting anyone and I feel she sleeps better with me.

Gabriella posted this 07 August 2019

I never have my children sleep with me only because I don’t want them to get in the habit of it and then I’ll have to break it when they are older.

Addie posted this 07 August 2019

No, I wouldn’t recommend it. I see too many horror stories and have decided that it wasn’t for me. 

Callii posted this 07 August 2019

I do not sleep with the baby in my bed. He has always been in his crib. 

Chelsea posted this 07 August 2019

Yes, I encourage co sleep.

Graham posted this 07 August 2019

Yes! If you want to sleep with your baby that’s your choice  

Erica posted this 08 August 2019

I’m going to sleep with my baby, or at least have her in the same room as me. 

Bristol posted this 08 August 2019

I slept in bed with my first child but I won’t with this one. Too hard to break it when they are older. 

Harper posted this 08 August 2019

No! Very dangerous. 

Chloe posted this 08 August 2019

I never wanted to, but sometimes I cave so we can all sleep.  I actually enjoy it as well, I know they are safe.  

Mel posted this 08 August 2019

I would research "safe co-sleeping". There are ways to do it safely! 

Delilah posted this 10 August 2019

I'm against it for babies who aren't able to roll over on their own. As a former social worker, I've had to work with too many families who lost their babies because of roll overs. I could never forgive myself. That being said, we did use a cosleeper with my daughter, which worked pretty well. She still had her own flat space to sleep, but it fit on the bed, but no worries about accidents. 

Amanda posted this 21 August 2019


Depends how old, I guess? We were against it. But now my daughter is two with night terrors and she comes into our room every night. Ah, we dont want to make a bad habit out of it but she's afraid. It's up to you. Sometimes you find that you sleep better with them in bed, especially if they're young. Anything to keep your sanity I think. you do what's best for you. Your pediatrician might advice you against it, but talk to them and see if they can recommend a safer way to do it. 

I agree,it depends on the situation, child, your personal preferences.  All of my babies slept with me well into their toddler years,but since I was breastfeeding, that is what was best for us.  

Mckayla posted this 21 August 2019

I made the decision once my baby boy was born. I was hesitant and against it at first because of the risk of rolling over and suffocating him or him not being in a good sleep position, but in the hospital he fell asleep on me multiple times whether when we were breastfeeding or I was holding him and was just too exhausted. The nurses would come in and ask if I wanted them to put him in his bassinet. 

Doing it in the hospital made it more appealing once I got home and sleep was rare. He mainly sleeps in his cradle beside my bed, but occasionally we will fall asleep with him on my chest or beside me ( not up against me ). At one point, his stomach was upset and this was the only way I could get him to calm down and sleep, every time I would move him into his cradle he would wake up. We got 5 hours of sleep and he is completely healthy. That being said, he does not do the same with his dad who is a VERY heavy sleeper and would roll without being aware. 

Kat posted this 21 August 2019


I would research "safe co-sleeping". There are ways to do it safely! 

This is a wonderful idea! There are many pros and cons to both, however at the end of the day, you have to do whats best for you and the baby.  I did not co sleep with my first child, but i DID  with my second. I feel as long as your mattress is firm, you can definitly do it with one of those co sleepers.  That would have been helpful with my second child.  

Kat posted this 21 August 2019


I am 900% positive that my husband would roll over and suffocate my kids, so I haven't done it.  Also, I realized I need my space (because sometimes I think he'll roll over and suffocate me too haha).   I don't think there is anything wrong with it if it works for your family.

I agree Jill,

I think you have to do whats best for your family. In many cultures, kids don co sleep.

Kat posted this 21 August 2019


I think bed sharing at a safe age is totally fine. Research has shown that it does not have negative effects. It actually make your child more trusting and independent based on studies. If you want to share your bed with your children go for it. You will be wishing you could have those moments back when they get older. 

I totally agree Heather

I think if anything, it increases the Mom and child bond.  They definitely cry alot less, or they did in my case.

Rachel posted this 21 August 2019

We use the dockatot to cosleep during naps and a bassinet next to the bed at night!

Melody posted this 22 August 2019


I have a newborn baby boy. He is 5 days old and I've slept with him since day one. I'm too paranoid to put him in his crib because of fear of SIDS. The down-side is my lack of sleep because I keep checking in on him, but at the same time I think either way I would have lack of sleep from having to get up to check on him. Everybody is different, just do what you think is safest for your baby. That's what I'm doing, even though I know there are risks but I still feel he's safer next to me because there's risks either way. 

I was the same way with my second and third. I felt like they were safer with me. 

Sophia posted this 23 August 2019

I did not with my first. Would have been way too nervous. I have with my second because he had RSV when he was 3 weeks old and slept better on his belly on my chest and never got away from him. He's 9 months - moving to own room soon.

Grace posted this 23 August 2019

We co slept with all of our babies. I was nursing,so i felt like it was alot easier,i also felt like i was keeping my babies safe. 

gerry posted this 28 August 2019

i did with my second baby, i think it is ok if you are safe about it. For example, if you are not a heavy sleeper and are not on any medications that cause extra drowsiness etc

Sandra posted this 28 August 2019

We use a dock a tot to co sleep. It works well.

Fina posted this 28 August 2019

We used a bassinet and then just transferred baby to crib about a week ago. It was hard, but we are all sleeping better now.

Cara posted this 31 August 2019

Before my daughter was born, I wasn't planning on co-sleeping because I just didn't feel like it was safe. Then, she wanted nothing to do with her crib and it was the only way I could get any sleep! So she's slept with us since day one pretty much. I think there are precautions you have to take when they're very little, but as she got older I worried about it a lot less. 

Sarah posted this 08 September 2019

In my situation, I bought a snuggle nest co-sleeper to go in our bed with us. However, my only reasoning for doing this was because my son had severe reflux and colic. For 4 long months he only slept in 15 minute intervals every 2 hours until getting the co-sleeper. He then slowly started sleeping longer hours and now at 1 year sleeps all night in his own bed in his own room with no problems at all.  

Natalie posted this 17 September 2019

We do. My arm is under baby to protect her and kept high above the covers. If my arm isnt under her, my hubby scoots down in bed so that she is above his head.

Marie posted this 18 September 2019

I am not a fan of it just because there is always a way for suffocation to occur. I am petrified I'll fall alseep holding her and suffocate her. However to each their own. I would suggest though if you are going to co-sleep maybe get an owlet or a snuza because it will alert you if the baby stops breathing and you'll wake up.

Sarah posted this 18 September 2019

I think it definitely depends on the person.  We do not allow it, my kids have tried multiple times.  But each time we go into their rooms, where we lay with them or sit with them for awhile.  They are just not allowed to come into our bed at night.  

Ashley posted this 5 weeks ago

I think the research is pretty divided right now as to the safety of bed sharing with babies.  I think it depends on your situation.  I try to keep the baby in his own bed/bassinet.  But I also know that I will sometimes fall asleep when I'm nursing laying down in bed.  I'm a light sleeper and trust myself to wake if there's a problem.  But it is so scary because it only takes one time for there to be a problem.

Amanda posted this 5 weeks ago

It's something that works well for our family

Sucre posted this 4 weeks ago

It's not my preference but there are times where I've shared a bed with my kids. It's definitely not ideal when they are tiny and little  and you are a sleep deprived mess making tough decisions. However, when they are 12 months and up it's not so worrisome.

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