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Diane posted this 19 June 2019

Personal opinions on bed sharing with baby?

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Marcy posted this 19 June 2019

Depends how old, I guess? We were against it. But now my daughter is two with night terrors and she comes into our room every night. Ah, we dont want to make a bad habit out of it but she's afraid. It's up to you. Sometimes you find that you sleep better with them in bed, especially if they're young. Anything to keep your sanity I think. you do what's best for you. Your pediatrician might advice you against it, but talk to them and see if they can recommend a safer way to do it. 

Dorine posted this 19 June 2019

I have a cousin who shared her bed with each of her 4 children until they were 2 years old. It made her feel like they were safer directly in her view. They are older now and each sleep on their own beds just fine.

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Jill posted this 19 June 2019

I am 900% positive that my husband would roll over and suffocate my kids, so I haven't done it.  Also, I realized I need my space (because sometimes I think he'll roll over and suffocate me too haha).   I don't think there is anything wrong with it if it works for your family.

Courtney posted this 19 June 2019

I feel like it's pretty widely acknowledged to be unsafe by "the medical community" but my kid's pediatrician told me to put her to sleep on her stomach, even though that's also considered unsafe, and I did it and now she's an excellent sleeper, so I agree. If you do it safely and it works for your family, that's great.

Davie posted this 19 June 2019

I have a newborn baby boy. He is 5 days old and I've slept with him since day one. I'm too paranoid to put him in his crib because of fear of SIDS. The down-side is my lack of sleep because I keep checking in on him, but at the same time I think either way I would have lack of sleep from having to get up to check on him. Everybody is different, just do what you think is safest for your baby. That's what I'm doing, even though I know there are risks but I still feel he's safer next to me because there's risks either way. 

Nydia posted this 21 June 2019

Much like the comment above, I’ve slept with my daughter in my bed quite a bit since day one. I never had any trouble with it and she is now 7 months and still sometimes falls to sleep with me. I think the whole controversy is unnecessary because everyone has their personal preference. I wouldn’t let my daughter sleep with her dad bc he’s a heavy sleeper but our bed is big enough for me and the baby to have a little more than half lol. SIDS is also a big reason for me sleeping with my daughter. I think it’s a good idea  

Chloe posted this 22 June 2019

We share a bed with our toddler on most nights, too. She was never the best sleeper and I found that when she stayed in our bed, she would sleep through the night. Also, I wouldn’t have to get up to check on her or (when she was a baby) to nurse her. To sleep or not to sleep? My answer was easy! 😴 

Abbie posted this 22 June 2019

I think sharing a bed with a toddler is a lot different than with a baby. My husband and I are both heavy sleepers and were terrified of hurting our daughter as an infant. He is also an EMT and has seen babies suffocated in a parents bed. As a toddler they are strong enough to protect themselves.

Olivia posted this 24 June 2019

We used a bassinet in our room at first, then moved on to a co-sleeper that attached to the side of our bed. When our baby was old enough to do so, he started crawling into our bed and sleeping with us anyways. We bought a rail to attach to our bed so that he doesn't fall off the bed and he switches between his own bed and our bed throughout the week. Depends on how he's feeling and how tired he is. 

Angie posted this 24 June 2019

I am currently expecting and have weighed the options. I'm with one of the other women with the fact that my husband would most definitely roll over and suffocate our baby. He is a very deep sleeper and even when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he is not fully aware of what is happening. On the other hand, I am very paranoid and I'm not sure if I will be able to sleep without my baby in the room. We are currently debating on using a bassinet or cradle for use in the bedroom, although he is mainly against it. He believes that babies that sleep with or in the same room as their parents will not be okay sleeping in their own room once they are older. 

Overall, I was told not to be too concerned in the first month or so, as most of the sleep that I will get will be whenever the baby is asleep. Which could be once I put him down in his crib or if I am exhausted after feeding and were both asleep on the couch.  

Veronica posted this 25 June 2019

I absolutely never sleep with my baby. Everyone says that they are fine and sure it is great until it is no longer fine and the other side of that is a tragedy.

Anna posted this 06 July 2019

I was almost positive I would sleep with mine in the bed, at least for a couple months. Nope - turns out I was SO paranoid about the blanket being over her face, or rolling onto her, that I couldn't sleep at aaaall. She slept in our room until she was over 3 months old (it is better, sleep studies show, if they're at least in the same room with you for the first few months), and then only right outside our door (again, because I woke up at every sound she made during the night). With my second, I bought a Halo bassinet that is high enough to be on the same level with my bed. If I need to sleep with my arm inside her bassinet, I will but will avoid the paranoid wakings! My now toddler, on the other hand, does occasionally get up in the middle of the night with nightmares, and we let her sleep the rest of the night with us. I think it depends on you, your partner, your baby, and your bed! (softness/blankets/size/etc)

Star posted this 06 July 2019

I'm a very light sleeper. I tried to be diligent with my first about putting him in a crib. But I found it easier to have him in bed while I was nursing. As a toddler sometimes he sleeps in his room but most of the time in my bed. My youngest has virtually never slept in his own space. It works for us.

Anna posted this 10 July 2019

Our 2 year old has been for the past couple of months, wanting to be in our bed SOMETIMES. For awhile there, he would wake up anywhere between 2am and 4am and now he's tapered off a bit.  He will sleep through the night in his crib alone, but then wake up early if anything at about 6am - have some milk - then lay with us in bed and fall asleep for another hour or two.  Sometimes, and we are ok with it since it's not all of the time.  In this case then we all get decent sleep.  He actually does well, stays right in the middle and there is nothing in his way. 

Alyssa posted this 18 July 2019

I share a bed with my little and have almost everyday since she was born. She hates sleeping in the bassinet and she'll cry and cry and cry but as soon as I lay her down in our bed she stops.

Patti posted this 18 July 2019

I was always told it was best not to co-sleep, but I have to admit we've done it while on vacation (and no crib was available), and it worked out just fine. I also have a kid that sleeps exceptionally well in almost any condition. 

Ruth posted this 18 July 2019

I haven't done it because honestly I was afraid of squishing my baby. But I know people who do it and they love it. I'd probably really enjoy the cuddle time, but I feel safer putting him in a bassinet by my bed instead.

Nina posted this 19 July 2019

I would advise against it as a consistent practice.  That said, anytime I fell asleep with my kids in my bed, they slept like angels next to me, so if you're at the end of your rope and really just need a little sleep, just be extremely careful.  That said, after caving and letting my first son into our bed sometime around five months when he had his first cold/fever, we basically ruined months of good sleep habits within a week and it took us nearly a year to get him completely out of our bed.


To those mentioning putting baby in their own room from the beginning, do keep in mind that while it is not recommended to share a bed with your baby, it is recommended that babies sleep in your room for at least the first six months.  I moved both of my boys into their own rooms around 12 weeks, but I would not have been comfortable any sooner than that.

Heather posted this 31 July 2019

I think bed sharing at a safe age is totally fine. Research has shown that it does not have negative effects. It actually make your child more trusting and independent based on studies. If you want to share your bed with your children go for it. You will be wishing you could have those moments back when they get older. 

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Janelle posted this 31 July 2019

I'm terrified to try it because I'm a very heavy sleeper, but I have some friends who have their babies in bed with them in a dock-a-tot or something similar and it works well! 

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