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Samantha posted this 13 June 2019

I started (tried) potty training when my daughter turned 2yo. We started with positive reinforcement using stickers and treats. She went 2 weeks doing so well (just not through the night) and then decided she didn't feel like it anymore. It's now 8 months later and she's just starting to want to wear underwear, but has her days. I want her to be completely potty trained (especially by 3yo), but I don't want to push it and make her push back harder. Any suggestions on similar personal experiences? I keep getting told "it'll happen when she's ready" and that I won't have to do anything. Not sure how I feel about that statement anymore 😬 . (Mainly because she proves to me that she knows better and will go without accidents an entire day....and then change her mind and the next day refuse.) 

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Caty posted this 13 June 2019

I am in the process of potty training my 2 year old as well. There are times when he brings me his own underwear so that I can get him started on potty training for the day. Then there are days when he refuses to want to put on his underwear. Personally, I just put it on him anyway even if he tries to fight me off. Once it's on him he gets over it fairly quickly and he knows he has to use the potty for the rest of the day. If I let him get away with not putting the underwear on and leave him in pull-ups he thinks that it's a break from potty training and he uses it like a diaper instead of what it's intended for. For my son, I have to be persistent with the underwear and I will continue to be because he will be turning 3 and starting preschool soon. If I left it up to "it'll happen when he's ready", even with my son being ready, he would probably still try to refuse. 😂 

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Eva posted this 14 June 2019

I've read the regression is really normal in the beginning.  We're still in the process of getting started and my son is 3. I've never been pushy about it, especially because right around the time it was "typical" to start training, my daughter was born and it was just too much at once.  Diapers were easier for me.  Now he tells me when he goes in his diaper, but if we do pull ups or underwear and I don't remember to check in (which I honestly just need to set a timer for or something), he comes to tell me AFTER he pees, so that's not clicking either.  I can tell he understands the concepts and we've talked about how he goes or doesn't when we go places (like after church he always tells me, "I didn't poop at church, just peed!" all proud) but it's not enough to keep him motivated to want to do it all the time.  I've also read it's normal for them to feel somehow attached to what "they made" in their diaper so maybe that's what's going on.  I need to be a little more motivated to do it - that's my goal for this summer, I just can't give up. I need a support group haha

Samantha posted this 14 June 2019

😂  This sounds like my daughter! I might try to push her to wear her undies and see how it works. My thoughts were that I didn't want to have to add to my work by having to clean up after it if she won't use the toilet. But I guess that would continue to be uncomfortable for her too, so she shouldn't want to? I'm going to give it a try!

I am in the process of potty training my 2 year old as well. There are times when he brings me his own underwear so that I can get him started on potty training for the day. Then there are days when he refuses to want to put on his underwear. Personally, I just put it on him anyway even if he tries to fight me off. Once it's on him he gets over it fairly quickly and he knows he has to use the potty for the rest of the day. If I let him get away with not putting the underwear on and leave him in pull-ups he thinks that it's a break from potty training and he uses it like a diaper instead of what it's intended for. For my son, I have to be persistent with the underwear and I will continue to be because he will be turning 3 and starting preschool soon. If I left it up to "it'll happen when he's ready", even with my son being ready, he would probably still try to refuse. 😂 

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Samantha posted this 14 June 2019

Yeah, I have also, but I'm over it now. 😂   That's exactly what happened with us (had another baby), so I just told myself it's because she wanted that same attention and she went back to it but who knows. I've been trying to also stay more motivated with it- without pushing her too much. Here's the support group for both of us!! loll

I've read the regression is really normal in the beginning.  We're still in the process of getting started and my son is 3. I've never been pushy about it, especially because right around the time it was "typical" to start training, my daughter was born and it was just too much at once.  Diapers were easier for me.  Now he tells me when he goes in his diaper, but if we do pull ups or underwear and I don't remember to check in (which I honestly just need to set a timer for or something), he comes to tell me AFTER he pees, so that's not clicking either.  I can tell he understands the concepts and we've talked about how he goes or doesn't when we go places (like after church he always tells me, "I didn't poop at church, just peed!" all proud) but it's not enough to keep him motivated to want to do it all the time.  I've also read it's normal for them to feel somehow attached to what "they made" in their diaper so maybe that's what's going on.  I need to be a little more motivated to do it - that's my goal for this summer, I just can't give up. I need a support group haha

Caty posted this 14 June 2019

I definitely hear you! It's true that doing it that way is a messy process. I've had to clean pee off the floor and pooped up underwear when I started, but because I've been consistent with it I feel like he's getting used to it. He barely pees on the floor and he almost always poops in the potty now. Another thing we do to motivate him is cheer him on. After he is done using the potty we all take turns saying something positive about it and he loves it. Now, after every use he literally calls us one by one by name so that we can say something encouraging to him. It can be a lot of work, but I do find myself cleaning less and less accidents. My son is pretty much almost done with day-time potty training because he uses the potty throughout the day and once he has that down I will start to train him for bed-time. I find that the more you do it the more you'll see progress and that it was worth it! 😉 

😂  This sounds like my daughter! I might try to push her to wear her undies and see how it works. My thoughts were that I didn't want to have to add to my work by having to clean up after it if she won't use the toilet. But I guess that would continue to be uncomfortable for her too, so she shouldn't want to? I'm going to give it a try!

I am in the process of potty training my 2 year old as well. There are times when he brings me his own underwear so that I can get him started on potty training for the day. Then there are days when he refuses to want to put on his underwear. Personally, I just put it on him anyway even if he tries to fight me off. Once it's on him he gets over it fairly quickly and he knows he has to use the potty for the rest of the day. If I let him get away with not putting the underwear on and leave him in pull-ups he thinks that it's a break from potty training and he uses it like a diaper instead of what it's intended for. For my son, I have to be persistent with the underwear and I will continue to be because he will be turning 3 and starting preschool soon. If I left it up to "it'll happen when he's ready", even with my son being ready, he would probably still try to refuse. 😂 

Brianna posted this 15 June 2019

In the begining, my daughter would go back and forth with using the potty.  Some days she did really well and some days she would have accidents all day.  One day I realized that she knew when she had to go but just refused to go on the potty.  I started making her help clean up the mess and I would take away her favorite toy until she went in the potty.  She finally got it and is now completely potty trained.  No accidents in the last few months, not even at night!

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Samantha posted this 18 June 2019

Ok, so I think that 1. I just needed to say it for it to happen (and maybe some encouragement) because my daughter suddenly decided she only likes wearing underwear now and has had only 1 accident in 3 days- woohoo!!  BUT now every time she has to poop she asks me to put on a diaper so she can go. Then she asks me to change her so she can put undies back on lol. What's the deal with that? I know that I've heard others mention sometimes they're afraid of doing that...but she doesn't seem afraid as much as she doesn't want to. She does have trouble going sometimes so maybe she's unsure if she has to go right then or not? Anyone else experience this?

Caty posted this 20 June 2019

Nice! It's great to hear there is improvement! My son also only wanted to pee in the at first as well. So, here is what I did. I refused him the pull-up for him to poop in. When he pooped in his underwear I would bring him to the bathroom and dump the poop from the underwear into the toilet and I would instruct him to do poopoo in there and then I would tell him to bend over so I could wipe his butt. It was a messy clean-up process, but it worked after being consistent. I only had to do that twice before he understood what he had to do. Now, he poops in the toilet with a mini seat on top. I think it's all about your own consistency because my brother's wife, for example, has a lot of time on her hands so her son picked up potty training very quickly. I work and didn't have as much time to be consistent, so mines learned a little right after his son learned it. I found that when I had more time in my hands and focused it towards potty-training on a more consistent basis he picked up on it very quickly. I think that if you're consistent with directing her to go poopoo in her potty she will pick up on that routine. Even if she does have a poopoo accident on her underwear, it will be unpleasant feeling for her, so that might be an extra motivator of why to go in the potty vs her undies.

Ok, so I think that 1. I just needed to say it for it to happen (and maybe some encouragement) because my daughter suddenly decided she only likes wearing underwear now and has had only 1 accident in 3 days- woohoo!!  BUT now every time she has to poop she asks me to put on a diaper so she can go. Then she asks me to change her so she can put undies back on lol. What's the deal with that? I know that I've heard others mention sometimes they're afraid of doing that...but she doesn't seem afraid as much as she doesn't want to. She does have trouble going sometimes so maybe she's unsure if she has to go right then or not? Anyone else experience this?

Olivia posted this 5 weeks ago

Our LO was picky with the actual potty seat that we used (figures). After some time, and 3 different products later, we discovered one that worked best. It is a step ladder with handles and a seat that folds onto the regular seat. It's so much better (for the lack of clean up on our part) and because she likes using it. I think her biggest issue was that the seat was a little wiggly and didn't sit perfectly still if she didn't. Once we got the new seat and she tried it out, she literally refused to wear diapers starting that same day. 

Abbie posted this 5 weeks ago

One thing I wish I had done was wait to try potty training. I was just so ready to be done with diapers. When we went through a regression, I was researching reasons. I learned that kids who are pushed before they are ready take longer overall. Which is what I did with my daughter. Honestly I used a sticker chart where she got a prize at the end to help motivate her visually.

Judy posted this 3 weeks ago

Completely agree! I was over the diapers and we were expecting our second. Our first regressed several different times. Now at almost 3 we are starting again. 

One thing I wish I had done was wait to try potty training. I was just so ready to be done with diapers. When we went through a regression, I was researching reasons. I learned that kids who are pushed before they are ready take longer overall. Which is what I did with my daughter. Honestly I used a sticker chart where she got a prize at the end to help motivate her visually.

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