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Postpartum Depression... Let's talk about it!

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Kris posted this 24 August 2018

Ok Mamas... Let's talk about it. I am a strong advocate for mental health disorders and being open and honest. What are your struggles? Did you suffer from postpartum depression? What did you do? How can we help other moms understand that this is NORMAL and OK to talk about?

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Julia posted this 24 August 2018

I can’t say that I suffered from postpartum depression, I almost had the opposite. Separation anxiety was it for me. I literally had extreme anxieties any time my son was away from me. I know it’s a good thing that babies aren’t glued and attached to their moms 24/7 but that’s how I saw it. I actually had to go on anti anxiety medicine and it helped tremendously. It was good for the both of us. I don’t know what it’s like to have the depression aspect, but I truly feel for anyone that’s does.

Camyrn posted this 24 August 2018

I had a mild case, but I didn't get treatment. THIS time? Any signs, I'm taking myself to the doctor! I suffer with depression so I do not want it to get worse.

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Sunshine posted this 25 August 2018

I had PPD TERRIBLE! I had to go to a therapist and get on depression meds. Turns out, depression ran in our family and it was a 'hush, hush' issue that no one really talked about. I am still on depression meds today. Looking back I realized that I always had issues, but I just never knew what they were. I thought everyone felt that way. 

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Heather posted this 25 August 2018

Wow Kris, What a great topic. There is so much stigma around post partum depression. I personally didnt experience it but I have so many friends that did. It's really a serious issue that thankfully is starting to get more attention. This is why I like social media. We are able to find groups where we feel comfortable enough to open up and really talk about these issues. 

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Gladys posted this 26 August 2018

I am following this thread for a friend. It carries such a stigma! There is nothing wrong with admit post partum depression.

Eva posted this 28 August 2018

I am being positive in my journey into motherhood...it hard to not think about what's going on in my office world and how my decision making will be influenced during my absence.

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Rachel posted this 28 August 2018

I don’t know if I had postpartum after my kids were born or if it was just lack of sleep. I also didn’t ask for any help so therefore felt alone. I always recommend new moms to ask for help and don’t be afraid. It takes a village to raise babies. 

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Amy posted this 29 August 2018

I should have opened up more after my first but I was ashamed of needing help. I felt like I needed to have it all together. It lasted for the first 9 months at least. I didn't help that my husband and I were not on the same page of the new adjustment of a little one either.

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Jessie posted this 29 August 2018

I don't think anyone likes to talk about depressing let alone PPD. It's a struggle for many and a lot of people frown upon it but seriously you can't help it! Everyone thinks you should be full of everything happy once you have a baby, I mean you did just have a miracle born but when you a have a chemical imbalance there is nothing that can control it. Meds need to enter the equation whether it is something you swore you'd never do or not. It is ok. What is wrong with getting your irregularities worked out and then really being happy about all the moments!??

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aubrey posted this 31 August 2018

I never suffered with post part depression thank God but I know some friends that did and that is no joke. I can understand how hard it is, but my best advice would be to be surrounded by a great support system, in my case it was my family and church friends. I had baby blues here and there but nothing severe

Amanda posted this 02 September 2018

I suffered from depression before I got pregnant so I'm concerned about postpartum depression. So far I've been ok but have experienced some anxiety. I've been open about it with my OBGYN and it has helped clear the air and make me feel more secure in my honesty. Mental health as a whole has way too much shame around it. There's nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. We all have our ups and downs. My best advice is to be honest with yourself, your partner, your doctor, and your family. Let people know how you're feeling and don't be afraid to ask for help.

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Megan posted this 02 September 2018

I was ok after my first pregnancy but really struggled after my second. I gained a lot of weight and was hard on myself about it. I thought that meant I was a bad mom and that I was selfish. At first I was reluctant to get help but eventually I started going to counseling. It definitely helped to have someone to confide in.

Katherine posted this 02 September 2018

I mainly dealt with anxiety after birth. I was always worried she'd stop breathing or that I'd fall asleep with her in bed. I attributed it to first-time mom jitters but it probably was depression. I was so afraid of doing something wrong.

I had an open dialogue with my doctor about it and she had me start journaling my feelings. It helped and with time I did eventually calm down. 

Mary Caroline posted this 05 September 2018

New moms have got to know that it is okay to deal with this after the birth of your baby and it is  okay to ask for help.  There is a stigma around this and I feel like a lot of moms feel like they are a failure if things are just clicking right away with motherhood.  Surround yourself with positive and caring family and friends and don't be ashamed to ask for support.  That right there is showing you are a good mom because you recognize a problem and you are seeking an answer.  It is hard with a newborn and trying to figure out how to function in the world with little to no sleep.  Add on ppd and it can just be so gut wrenching on a new mommy.  Ask for help, get help and know that you are going to be okay. 

Amy posted this 05 September 2018

My friend suffered from it pretty bad... I am hoping I don't, but she met with someone once a week to help her with it and over time she got better. If that happens to me I will probably visit the person she went to! 

Shiara posted this 16 October 2018

I'm very nervous about the possibility of this when my baby comes... I struggle with depression and I'm scared that it won't be something that I can avoid.

Jen posted this 16 October 2018

This is a wonderful forum- I'm really concerned about this. This is my first and my sister really struggled with PPD.  I usually a fairly optimistic person but I have anxiety when it comes to my pregnancy due to several prior losses.  Is there anything you can do to prevent/control this from happening?

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Kara posted this 17 October 2018

I had PPD after my 2nd was born. I didn't have a hint of it with my first, but man... it was rough the 2nd time around. I was super hard on myself about some difficulties I was having breastfeeding and felt terrible about my delivery. It was so rushed and frantic and everything I never imagined. Both problems paired with my hormones made me a mess. Luckily I have a great doctor who listened to my endless stream of complaints and tears. She encouraged me to reach out to some local support groups and I'm glad I did. There are plenty online too. 

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Yordana posted this 17 October 2018

I suffered post partum depression with my first child and I wasn't even aware that I was experiencing it. It was endless doubts, crying, feeling alone, it even affected my marriage as we were very young and my husband was unexperienced and unaware this was even a possibility like myself. I had serious problems looking at my self after my c-section, it was awful and very serious. Now knowing better I definitely recommend anyone who feels any signs of depression to reach out for help. I also believe doctors should encourage moms to educate themselves on this because I had no history of previous depression or anything so I never really knew what I was going through.

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Tatiana posted this 17 October 2018

Thank you so much for this honest and supportive post. I am a mom of two, currently in my 3rd trimester of my third. I suffered terribly from Postpartum Depression after my first two pregnancies. At first, I was terrified to even seek professional support out of fear that I may be seen as a "bad mother." What if they take my baby away from me for feeling this way?? By virtue of seeking support, you are absolutely showing your ability to be a good mom. Know this. Physiologically, your rapidly changing hormones can seriously affect your mental state after you give birth up to a year and even beyond. You owe it to yourself and your baby to seek out postpartum therapists and programs who genuinely understand the nature of this condition. Anxiety conditions are closely linked too. Get the support! You need it. Happy mommy, happy baby!

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Jena posted this 17 October 2018

This is such an important topic and so seldom discussed.  Build a support network, mom friends, your mom, groups in the area, loved ones.. keep talking and take it easy on yourself.

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Karen posted this 18 October 2018

I am really happy to see how open and supportive everyone is here.  I suffered from PPD with my first child, and I'm really worried now that I'm on my second.

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Tatiana posted this 19 October 2018

This is such an important topic and so seldom discussed.  Build a support network, mom friends, your mom, groups in the area, loved ones.. keep talking and take it easy on yourself.

Tatiana posted this 19 October 2018

Yes!  I completely agree! Join your local new mom's groups. You can search for groups near you on google or meetup.com. La Leche League local groups too can be life-saving networks especially if it's your first time breastfeeding.

Lana posted this 19 October 2018

After a traumatizing c-section, I fell on PPD, it was awful for me. I couldn't concentrate was nervous and crying most of the day. It was hard on my older child and baby and my husband. I seek help quickly and that turned my family around 360, I would say don't think twice find help asap your family deserves it and so do you. 

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Kate posted this 19 October 2018

This is something I worry about. There's no history of PPD with me or my family, but I worry about it being a problem because I am currently being treated for anxiety and depression. Since we're being open, I've discussed it with my therapist. She suggested that I increase my appointments during pregnancy and discuss medications that are safe to take during pregnancy to hopefully keep PPD at bay or decrease the severity. I'm also trying to do a lot of meditating and yoga to keep my cool. 

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Karen posted this 19 October 2018

I suffered with PPD with my first. I didn't seek help until my son was a year and a half. It was tough and like another previous post it didn't help that my significant other and I weren't on the same page. I didn't want to go the route with meds so I saw my therapist every week and it was a lot of bawling my eyes out lol and eventually dealing with breaking up as well. It's been a long tough journey. But seeking help from a therapist/support groups was something that continues to help me. 

Britt posted this 20 October 2018

I've been thinking of seeing a therapist. I'm going through a rough time and found these forums. Which have been helping me out. Being able to talk about my problems on here has been releasing for me. But I think I am going to take the step in seeing a therapist for more help. 

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Rhonda posted this 26 October 2018

I had it myself and it can be normal but i agree with making your doctor aware so together you can decide when it becomes an issue. I had it and didn't realize what it was,i thought i was just tired.

Jessica posted this 14 November 2018

It takes a village to raise a child! I agree with all here in saying reach out and get support. You owe it to yourself and your baby!

April posted this 14 November 2018

My OB kept claiming I had "baby blues." Several years later and I found out I have depression and I am pretty sure what was PPD that she brushed off with some anxiety meds. I am so glad that I finally sought out a therapist last year and got to the bottom of the problem. I think it was already a pre-existing issue I had before I had my kids but it seems like it got worse after I had them.

Tiara posted this 15 November 2018

I have a dear friend who went through post partum. She always had suffered from depression and anxiety and due to being pregnant was off her usual medication. Baby came, she was ok for about a month and then started exhibiting symptoms. Didn't feel as drawn to the baby. Everyone around her had noticed but she was in denial about it. That was about 2 years ago. It was only looking back that now she can say she was definitely in post partum and feels guilty about not being as hands on with the baby at the time. It's very sad and hard thing to deal with, so it's always nice to have a great support system to help momma and baby and kind of see the signs if they are there.

Toun posted this 15 November 2018

Everyday life is so challenging most times...having a demanding baby can add up to the challenge. I feel like i will be looked down on if I admit that am going through PPD.

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Boonsri posted this 16 November 2018

I felt a little bit of it a while back. I am hoping i don't have to go through it again.

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Emerald posted this 16 November 2018

Yes, enough light is not shed upon this topic. It is very important to seek support.

Lou posted this 17 November 2018

When I walked into my OB's office just crying for no reason, she absolutely told me I had it and boy she was right! I just didn't feel like myself and was very tearful and "blue". It's definitely hard and wishing everyone out there who is struggling right now some ease and happiness for those PP Blues.

Ana posted this 18 November 2018

I went through this a bit with my first, it wasn't to a very bad extent but it was very dark at times. The feelings were so overwhelming. I had decided to talk to someone early on as I suffer from a bit of depression on a regular basis and I feel this is why I was able to cope with and overcome the sad and dark feelings. It's not an easy thing. Wishing you lots of support and success and prayers in this matter. 

katilyn posted this 18 November 2018

I ended up with it after my baby boy was born. I felt like I was just mommy and not me anymore. I wanted only my child and had seperation anxiety. I was scared and depressed for a few months. Thankfully it went away quick. My family is my world.

Trisha posted this 19 November 2018

I love this topic Kris. Exercise cured my mothers postpartum Depression and I plan to follow in her footsteps if this occurs with me. As someone who has an underachieve thyroid an estrogen is unbalanced I feel like this will either heavily impact me or minimally impact me. I  think in any case of depression you need to do little things everyday to feel better about yourself and your life, especially after becoming a mother. I'm sure there are therapeutic hormones out there to help with PPD. I love that this is a support group for all the women that have it, Support each other ladies! 

Debra posted this 20 November 2018

I suffered really bad after my first baby and never saw it coming. It was the most horrible feeling I have probably felt. Not long into it my doctor placed me on Celexa and within 2 weeks I felt like myself again. 

Harley posted this 07 March 2019

I can't even put into words the loneliness I feel. The pills don't help, the talking doesn't help... I don't know what else to turn to and I can't get out of this hole I'm in..

Cynthia posted this 29 June 2019

I've read so much about it. Def want to be prepared for if it comes. I am trying to conceive at the moment. 

Anna posted this 06 July 2019

I never got diagnosed, but looking back, I am pretty sure I struggled with PPD from the time my first was 4 months old until she was over a year old. I never had suicidal or self harm thoughts, so I just brushed it off as exhaustion (she woke up at least 2-3 times every night, often 4-5 times, until she was 11 months old). But there were days when I CRIED because I had to get out of bed... constantly exhausted...washing the dishes felt like an insurmountable task ... the only things I could make myself do was take care of my baby, and hardly anything past that. Some days taking a shower was too much to contemplate. I had very little support at this time, AND I lived in a basement apartment (come to find out, I'm very sensitive mood-wise to not getting enough sunshine), and I had a lot of family issues happening on my side at the time. It was not pretty! I wish I had been more self aware, given myself more grace, and asked for more help. We DO need to talk about it! Depression isn't always the deepest, darkest place you can go...it can be when you feel like you're not functioning normally and it's been going on for a while and feels like it will last forever... I wish I had talked with a counselor sooner and done a Mother's Day Out program earlier. 

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