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My Boyfriend Won't Change Diapers

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Holly posted this 17 September 2019

Ok, so me and my boyfriend just had a baby. This is my second and his first. He absolutely refuses to change diapers. I am so sick of this crap. What can I do?

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Lydia posted this 26 February 2020

I am in the same boat unfortunately he does not even help with baths, teeth brushing, feeding or anything at all. 

Polyana posted this 25 February 2020

How is it  any different than men wiping their own butts? I don't get it!!

Most men won't change a baby dipper less they really have to most the time its the mothers job but if the mother ant around then the men has to do it . But all men ant the same tho some will and some won't they think it's nasty but yea thats true but the dipper has to be changed on a baby tho . 

Polyana posted this 25 February 2020

OMG!! Is this a male issue? I have experienced this and have heard this from at least 3 of my friends about their husbands and boyfriends. I know mine is squeamish about possibly getting poop on his hands while changing our little onw, but he doesn't even change the pee diapers-- so I have attributed this to pure laziness!! He won't bathe or dress the baby either-- so ANNOYING!! Sometimes this makes me feel like a single mom. So over it!!

I now schedule my spa appointments every other weekend, so those are daddy daycare Saturdays and he's forced to feed, change, dress or whatever the baby needs while I'm away. BUTTT-- there have been a few occasions when I still come back to poop diapers that have been sitting for a bit that I know he just didn't want to change. Just horrible!!

Fiona posted this 14 February 2020

I feel like this might be related to fear? My husband was always will to do things but expressed his nerves with things like bath time,etc. We worked together to learn and grow as a team and now he is much more confident. Still, there are things he prefers not to do and things I would rather handle. 

Jade posted this 10 February 2020

You make him do it... it's his baby too. What would the poor baby do if you were out shopping and the baby was with dad? Believe me, my boyfriend hates diaper duty but he hates the thought of his kids in dirty diapers more. 

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Jane posted this 10 February 2020

make him do it!

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Lisa posted this 26 January 2020

thats so weird in my opinion.. does he have a reason why? is there anything else he could do that would help out so you arent stuck doing it all? diaper changes are fast and are gonna go on for a long time so its really not fair to you.

Rachelle posted this 25 January 2020

Well...I don't understand this at all...but maybe if he absolutely won't change diapers, maybe he can be in charge of something else. Like all of the night time feedings? Or all of the night time baths? Something that could make a reasonable compromise, perhaps?

Erin posted this 25 January 2020

He should not be allowed to act like this. What if you have to leave for hours? Does he allow the baby to get diaper rash or just wait? It's unreasonable and childish. He made the baby and should be just as involved as you. Not acceptable!

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Mallory posted this 18 December 2019

You need to have a talk with him ASAP and make your expectations very very clear.   Two people made this baby, so he needs to step up!

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Liz posted this 16 December 2019

I would just tell him it's his turn. I would also leave him with the kid for two hours and he will be forces to. Remind him that he made the baby too. Stay strong - you go this! 

Chris posted this 20 November 2019

Most men won't change a baby dipper less they really have to most the time its the mothers job but if the mother ant around then the men has to do it . But all men ant the same tho some will and some won't they think it's nasty but yea thats true but the dipper has to be changed on a baby tho . 

Teresa posted this 19 November 2019

This seems like quite the hot topic.  I don't see what the big deal is, once a person does it a few times.  It should be natural - is it because it can be "gross" or is there something more to it? My wish is for more dads/men/parents to view that changing diaper time as opportunities for grow - for the child.  There is so much interaction that can occur - singing, story (to get them to stay still), etc.  It's really just another opportunity to bond.  

Tulip posted this 31 October 2019

Okay... I was initially ready to join in the bashing. BUT... we all have phobias, flaws and things that make us cringe. 

The thought of poopy diapers was really really gross to me initially but now, a million diapers later... I do not care.

As long as he is making progress even by watching how diapers are changed. Exposure helps with all irrational fears. Is he a good father in other ways and is he willing to do other fatherly things?

Anna posted this 31 October 2019

This is unfortunate.  In this day and age, how would a person not even want to TRY.  Does it gross him out? Even a pee diaper?  Is there something more to this?

olivia posted this 12 October 2019

Is there a reason? I agree with what everyone else has sad,its time for a serious talk.  

Alaska posted this 03 October 2019

What is he going to do when you aren't there to change the diaper?

Megan posted this 29 September 2019

I'm wondering if Holly has made any progress with the diaper changes

karlie posted this 29 September 2019

Oh my, that's awful! Bring to his attention that if he refuses to change diapers then he is accepting the fact that he will never be able to watch or take the child anywhere by himself. If he doesn't know how to properly care for the child then he cannot expect to be able to ever care for the little one on his own. A mother should be able to rely on the father to care for their little one if need be, and refusing to change a diaper is refusing to care for a child. 

Lilliana posted this 25 September 2019

Oh, no! I can't imagine how that feels but I hope he figures it out soon. Putting up a fight definitely won't help your cause, but a heart to heart should do the trick.

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