Mom Shaming!

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Becca posted this 21 May 2019

Who agrees everyone needs to stop mom shaming and accept there is no one way to parent?!

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Allison posted this 21 May 2019

Agreed, we all parent differently because we all have our own beliefs and values.

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Gigi posted this 21 May 2019

Yes! Sometimes, there is so much pressure, especially from MILs who think they know it all.

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Dre posted this 21 May 2019

Yes, completely. Just like with any bullying.  We cannot control what people will say or do, but we can TRY to speak to them differently when it comes to motherhood and discussion between mothers.  What I mean is that we can try to have an attitude about confidence so the other person knows right away that they can share, but we won't necessarily agree.  On the topic of MILs...oh YES. Be THERE. Can't get around THAT.

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user8 posted this 22 May 2019

Yes, amen! It breaks my heart to see other moms shaming another one! I do what I feel is best for me and my child, and I believe every mom is doing what she believes in her heart is best. It doesn't matter if I agree or not! I especially dislike when women that are NOT moms have advice for me. I just ignore them, but I really wish I had a voice sometimes. I would tell them off!!!

Patricia posted this 22 May 2019

Exactly!!! People are all different! Let us all just peacefully co-habitate without the extra judgement and shame!

user9 posted this 23 May 2019

Amen, sister! I agree that moms need to encourage and support one another, and stop the shaming! When I talk to moms, especially new moms, I keep my opinions to myself! If they want advice then they will ask!!! 

Jennifer posted this 23 May 2019

GIRL YES!  I don't understand how people who are actually moms can still be so judgemental... I feel like my view of parenting changes daily!  There just are no right or wrong answers.

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Momzie posted this 23 May 2019

Yes, we should all encourage each other. We all have different ways of doing things.

Alexia posted this 23 May 2019

There is nothing I hate more! We need to lift each other up, not tear each other down! Mothering is hard enough as it is, why do we have to make it harder on each other?

Jenny posted this 25 May 2019

Agree. Totally agree. Everyone of us have our unique circumstances and experiences from which we are patenting. If people around cannot be accommodative and compassionate of that fact, I think we need to make ourselves strong internally so as to not be bothered  by such comments.  

Kathryn posted this 26 May 2019

Agree 100%! That's kind of the downside to our social media-immersed world, I think....it's far too easy to sit behind a keyboard and judge someone else.  Drives me crazy! 

Michelle posted this 26 May 2019

Most definitely agree! I think so many moms do it just for the social media status ("if I make you look bad, I can make myself look better than you" attitude). 

I also think a lot of this could be solved if we think before we speak (or text or type or whatever). I do think the the occasional mom shaming event might happen because Mom A wants to help Mom B but doesn't say the advice in a constructive way. 

I remember when my sister started feeding her 4th month old rice cereal, my cousin saw and immediately said something like "Oh my gosh, what are you doing?! You're ruining her stomach! She can't have solids until she's at least 6 months!" Needless to say, my sister freaked out even though her doctor is the one who told her to start introducing solids.  Come to find out, my cousin was trying for a baby at the time (and is now happily finally pregnant and due next month!) and doing all sorts of research and had just read an article stating that babies who got solids before 6 months could have stomach issues in their 30s. If only she had started out saying that instead of basically attacking my sister...

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Kate posted this 02 June 2019

Absolutely! Even when another parent is doing something that we actually think is straight up wrong, they are almost certainly trying to do the best they know how. Why not support and help each other instead of putting each other down?

Lucia posted this 02 June 2019

I agree but also disagree. Sometimes safety is at risk and if we keep feeding into the moms delusions, it can literally be deadly. We have a responsibility to help, yes, but also to be HONEST. It's called critiquing. We do not have to agree with one another and we can have civil disagreements. I think the whole "mom shaming" is blown WAY out of proportion. There's a difference between supporting someone and watching someone make unsafe choices which can result in severe harm or death. 

user4 posted this 03 June 2019

I agree that the act of mom shaming needs to stop. There is definitely a difference between mom shaming, and critiquing with the intention to stop dangerous behavior. I cannot stand the amount of people that have something to say to me about my "natural" ways of parenting my daughter. If it's not for you then fine, but don't tell me how to raise my own.

user5 posted this 03 June 2019

Yes! I was just shamed on this site for being vegan during pregnancy--even though I was not and clearly stated that in my original post. The nerve of some people--especially when it is apparent they have issues with reading comprehension...😒 

Christie posted this 03 June 2019

Mom shaming doesnt apply to thinking its ok for someone to do something unsafe. Mom shaming is basically bullying another mom for doing something different than you, like breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, or a stay at home mom looking down on the working mom. It doesn't mean looking the other way if someone is clearly doing something dangerous. The point is, the is no one way to parent and we should all be more accepting of others.

Megan posted this 03 June 2019

It's definitely out of control these days! I think that our access to social media is partly to blame...it's a blessing and a curse.  Social media allows moms to connect positively online, but also opens us up to judgement from others who find it so easy to be mean from behind their keyboards! So annoying!

Dorissa posted this 04 June 2019

Mannnnn, you can't escape mom shaming no matter what 😫 It's really about you as a momma remaining confident in allll your parenting decision and not letting it affect you!

lucy posted this 04 June 2019

It's all about being respectful. We can disagree, and we can even have some hard lines of things that we absolutely don't think are okay, but we can do that in a respectful way. If people are doing something dangerous or harming their children, then of course that's a different thing, but there are so many choices we make as parents. We obviously make our choices because we think that X is better for us and our situation than Y, but that doesn't mean that is true for everyone in every situation. It doesn't mean that Y is bad.

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