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I’m supposed to make a birth plan?!

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Melissa posted this 25 March 2019

Hey ladies. It seems like there are a lot of moms on this forum. Did your doctor ask you to make a birth plan? I’m supposed to bring my birth plan to my next appointment. I’m kind of at a loss... I just want my baby to arrive healthy and happy. I want to breast feed. Skin to skin, all that. But other than that I’m not too particular. Or maybe I just have no clue what all I’m supposed to have an opinion about! Anyone have tips for me? What should I be thinking about? 

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Jane posted this 25 March 2019

I kept both of mine basic. Cover your basics and explain the rest to your doctor. If they have anything in mind, they'll ask I stuck to breastfeeding, pain meds, tearing vs cutting, intervention, etc. My doctor was satisfied. I'm not super picky and everything went great the first time around. Here's for hoping that happens again!

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Winnie posted this 25 March 2019

My doctor preaches about them. It's nice to have a guide for them to work with to make sure you get the best experience possible. I would recommend thinking about what YOU want in a delivery. Do you want pain medications? Do you want to labor exclusively in bed or would you like a tub/birthing ball? Do you want to tear naturally? Do you want to breast feed? Do you want to have the cord cut immediately? Would you like the baby placed on you immediately or cleaned off? Don't go too overboard with stuff like "I want Ave Maria played at the exact moment of crowning" but make sure you cover your bases

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Megan posted this 25 March 2019

Yes - you should have a general outline of what you want. Don't go over the top with it but have your basic ducks in a row.

Liliana posted this 25 March 2019

I highly recommend one. With everything going on around you, the last thing want to do is have to worry about telling people what you want. It's easier to have it all written down in one place/reviewed in advance. 

Amy posted this 25 March 2019

Think about the overall birth - not the nitty gritty details. Do you want pain relief? Do you want to birth in a tub? Do you want certain people there? Do you want to go as natural as possible? Your doctor will do a run-over of everything you have so don't worry too much. They're great with filling in any blanks

Jessica posted this 25 March 2019

Have you been to a birthing class? Your hospital probably offers them. Or do a google search to find something like that in your area. It was a huge help to me in showing me what would happen so I could decide what I wanted ahead of time.

Cynthia posted this 26 March 2019

I was never asked to make a formal plan. But all of the doctor in our practice were aware that we wanted vaginal and epidural. So I guess we did have an informal plan...

Melissa posted this 27 March 2019

Thank you ladies!!!

Melissa posted this 27 March 2019

Yeah, I think my hospital does! I will look into it for sure. Thanks for the tip!

Have you been to a birthing class? Your hospital probably offers them. Or do a google search to find something like that in your area. It was a huge help to me in showing me what would happen so I could decide what I wanted ahead of time.

Samantha posted this 31 March 2019

I've had 3 boys. my first 2 didn't have a birth plan and honestly didn't even know about them. My 3rd the hospital staff was amazing and hands on and wanted to make sure I the birth was how I wanted it. It gives you a piece of mind knowing that you're being heard and have an opinion.  
as far as the plan- just express to them what makes you comfortable. how you want the birth- vag, c-section, water birth, etc., if you want to do skin to skin, delayed cord clamping, breast or formula, if you want music playing, if you want to watch it happening, who you want in the room- when you want visitors. 

Allie posted this 02 April 2019

I was advised to create a birth plan as well. I also went to a class like someone above suggested and it was the most helpful thing! I came away from it with lots of things to think about. And soon I was able to easily make a plan for what I want. The best advice given to me was to be flexible. It's great to make a plan, but don't be so set on it that any change to the plan causes you to stress and feel like a failure. You just never know what is going to happen when it comes to labor and delivery! The biggest part of my plan is: a baby in my arms!!! Everything else is flexible. 

Eliot posted this 05 April 2019

I have really bad anxiety and honestly a birth plan was not the best idea for me because nothing in life ever goes right lol. If you feel you don't need one then don't have one. It's a lot easier to go with the flow and not have expectations. No big deal to let it all manifest naturally, I promise.

Lyndsey posted this 05 April 2019

I like having a birth plan to the letter, even if something crazy happens at least everyone knows what I wanted. It gives us something to work from at least, in case I'm too out of it.

DAWN posted this 15 April 2019

I think having an overall idea of your wishes is good but also being very aware that things can go out of the window very fast.  With my first, there was a moment when the monitor of me and baby apparently broke (but they did not know this) and though her heart rate was doubling and at that moment they went into we are doing a c-section now....and you know what, even though I did not want that, if it was going make sure she was ok, then YES!!  I think the other thing is that many of the nurses are experienced and will help you.  NOw if you have a wish like - NO EPIDURAL - that is different than saying you want candles and a specific song playing when baby arrives.  

Carolyn posted this 15 April 2019

I had never heard of one until now. Hmmm interesting i might try for my next baby. 

shanda posted this 18 April 2019

i dont know where to begin to start making a birth plan i just thought it would all fall into place so i havent even began to think about any plan making

becky posted this 19 April 2019

how cool of your Dr.!  mine has never once mentioned a birth plan, but I;ve read other mothers making one, especially if they are doing some sort of home birth.

I made a mental birth plan lol.

Its pretty basic. just what I want and expect throughout the process.

Zoe posted this 24 April 2019

That is the first time I have ever heard of a doctor requesting a Birth plan but that's pretty cool honestly! I wish my doctor seemed that interested lol But I get what you mean about just wanting it to go smoothly and the baby just come out healthy and happy. Maybe just keep it simple on the plan exactly how you were thinking and if the doctor has suggestions or recommendations, then you can hear those out and see how you feel about it. Thats what I would do but I do not think its exactly necessary to have a birth plan. 

Mary posted this 06 May 2019

It depends on your doctor. Mine told me it isn’t necessary unless you feel very strongly about wanting something a certain way that they don’t typically do. I didn’t have one and everything went fine.

Sarah posted this 07 May 2019

My doctor seemed more annoyed by it...I made one still but I don’t think it even made it out of my bag! 

Mary posted this 07 May 2019

We always covered the basics with our births, but never wrote out a formal plan. It was really more: Epidural or nah? With my son they asked about circumcision. My hospital was really standard about somethings, though, that aren't necessarily standard everywhere else. Skin to skin is standard. Not washing baby for 24 hours is standard (and that was actually a change from when my first was born to when my second was born). They automatically send lactation specialists around the next morning unless you specific you're exclusively formula feeding. Baby never leaves the room unless there's a medical emergency or you specifically request some nursery time. Most moms I know who created a birth plan had most of it pretty much go out the window once labor actually started.


Ami posted this 08 May 2019

I didn't have one...I mean how can you make a plan for something when you don't really know how it's going to go down! Unless you're super firm on something (no forceps, no meds, etc...) I would just go w/ the flow!

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