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How many kids do you want?

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Mel posted this 10 August 2019

I'd love to hear about all the difference in family sizes & what you think is the hardest part about having that number of kids!


I have 1 right now & I think the hardest part is trying to make sure he isn't too spoiled and trying to time when/if we will have another one! 

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Delilah posted this 10 August 2019

I always wanted 2, and that's where we ended up. They're further apart in age than I wanted, but fertility doesn't always run on our time schedules. The hardest part is that they are oil and vinegar, so there's a ton of fighting. 

Sarah posted this 11 August 2019

3 children max.

lula posted this 18 August 2019

i have two now. i like how they have each other to play with etc but i hate the fighting which can be constant and over the dumbest things. now that i am almost past the age that i would feel comfortable having another baby, i can't help but think about having another one. i will say, however, that it seems like 2 is the perfect number for us. i can't imagine having the time to dedicate to a newborn right now so i think we are set!

Mallory posted this 19 August 2019

We (I) want three!!! haha. We have two, going for number three with no luck yet. I grew up with three and so did my husband. It is what we know. I love that when we were younger, I always had a sibling around (one was typically not around) so there was always someone to play with, and talk to! And at two right now... I just don't feel done yet. I think when you know... you know!

Lynn posted this 19 August 2019

We have two right now and are debating between 3 or 4 total! Our first two are almost exactly two years apart and my youngest is about to turn 1 so we are starting to talk about timing for the third!  I feel like it was much easier to decide to go from 1 to two than it is to go from 2 to 3 though.

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Sophia posted this 23 August 2019

We always wanted three. Currently, have a just-turned-3 yr old and a 9-month-old. It's a lot of juggling but totally worth it. However, I don't think I could juggle another small one any time soon - and we'd definitely need a bigger house so another may not be in the cards. 

Misty posted this 23 August 2019

Just one for us.  I know a lot of people don't agree with that, but I am ok with just one child.  I want to be able to focus on her and bringing her up right, because it is a really messed up world. I mean to instill humility and kindness so that she is not one of those bratty know it all kids that everyone wants to strangle.

Susan posted this 23 August 2019

I think 2 is perfect for me. 

Lana posted this 24 August 2019

Perfect way to put it! Everyone has their own opinions about only have 1 kid-my mom shares her thoughts with me ALL the time. But its nice to be able to focus fully on them, attend all their events, etc without having to split your time between multiple kids and possibly missing something big! 

Just one for us.  I know a lot of people don't agree with that, but I am ok with just one child.  I want to be able to focus on her and bringing her up right, because it is a really messed up world. I mean to instill humility and kindness so that she is not one of those bratty know it all kids that everyone wants to strangle.

Brianne posted this 29 August 2019

My husband and I planned on having 3 children. We just had baby #2 this summer. I have had complications both times so I am on the fence about a third child. I would love to have 3 but I don't know if I want to put my body through it again. We are focusing on our two beautiful girls, paying off debt (including the hospital bills) and then trying to sell our house and move to a bigger home/larger property. If all things work out, and I feel up to it, I may be on board for trying for #3 then. For me, listening to my body and feeling it in my heart will help me to decide. 

Madison posted this 29 August 2019

we have 2 and would love to have 2 more. 

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Sasha posted this 31 August 2019

2 is my magic number while my husband has a ridiculous number (7). Yeah, he's crazy if he thinks I'm going through pregnancy another 5 more times. I'm so done!

Gianna posted this 09 September 2019

I have my boy and my girl, so we are good with 2 lol. 

Sarah posted this 09 September 2019

I would like to have 2 children. Currently have 1 but if the second never happens I am blessed to have my 1 child.

Lindsey posted this 11 September 2019

I want to have at least 3 put 4-5 max! After having my first I know that I want many children. I love being a mom!

linda posted this 11 September 2019

I definitely want 3 kids. My husband is convinced we need four but I'm not sure about that. I grew up in a family of three siblings so I'm biased. My husband is concerned that the third child is going to be "left out". I'm the youngest of all the siblings though and if anything I just got babied more by my mom and dad lol. 

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Carey posted this 12 September 2019

i love that we have two. yes they fight quite a bit but they also play together. I think with one you do probably take more time for playdates etc vs having two, but just my thought

Theresa posted this 12 September 2019

Currently have one, always wanted two. I think whatever God blesses me with. But, how could I ever love another as much as this one?! Kidding, but serious.  

Nicole posted this 13 September 2019

Whatever the Lord blesses me with but I'd be happy with two!!

Kaile'a posted this 13 September 2019

I'm an only child, but I want a big family. I think 4 would be great if there's 3y age gap between them all. 

Nina posted this 13 September 2019

I think only 1 is in the cards but I'd love to have more. I had a bunch of siblings and it was fun as a kid and great now!

Jinny posted this 16 September 2019

I always thought I'd have a houseful of babies. I wanted at least five, but have two. I've struggled with miscarriages and problems getting pregnant and have come to the point where I've realized that the two I have are enough. I can't put myself through the pain anymore. I would if I had too.

Anne posted this 17 September 2019

I was one of 5 kids, and only have 1 kid. I'd love to have more if I can!

Amanda posted this 18 September 2019

I have always wanted 3 children. However currently I am pregnant with my first and think we most likely stop at 2. We have a unique situation though because we did IVF so i have still have 5 frozen embryos so we want to see exactly how many children we can get because they do not work every time. So 5 embryos may only produce one more child and I am not doing an egg retrieval again so then we would stick to 2. 

Lindsey posted this 23 September 2019

I want atleast 3 but possibly 4. I think that the difficutly with 4 is that it just becomes a lot. But I have always wanted to have a big family.

Sage posted this 24 September 2019

We only want 2!

Karisa posted this 24 September 2019

I would like to have three children at the MAX. I think it is important for children to have siblings. I grew up as an only child and I think life can be very lonely like this. For me it was. I find value in family bonds and ties. The challenge, is juggling everything...all the little and big details of each child's life. But in the end, I think it is well worth it and a beautiful thing!

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April posted this 24 September 2019

I've not really thought too much on this thus far. I guess I would like to have 2 or 3. But my health is a huge factor I have to consider. But thinking on this, I recall my father having a total of 13 siblings....and huge YIKES! How did they do that? 

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Freya posted this 25 September 2019

We would like 2 children. If more happen or come, we will embrace with joy!!!

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Chloe posted this 25 September 2019

As the eldest of 3 I am confident that I only want 1 

Kelly posted this 25 September 2019

We only want 2 children due to budget/cost of raising a child these days. If that was not a factor, we'd probably have a larger family. 

Christine posted this 05 November 2019

I think 2 is my limit. I don't know how moms of multiples do it.  How do they handle the crying and holding a baby at all times?  I think I would go insane.  That is why I think a 5 year age gap is perfect for me.

Lynn posted this 06 November 2019

My husband wants me to have to drive a bus he wants so many kids!!! 

Derek posted this 06 November 2019

We planned on 4 but we're on #6 and 7 is on his way

Amanda posted this 06 November 2019

3 is a good number

Katie posted this 06 November 2019

I have three so far.  My husband and I have never been "planners" in deciding how many children to have.  I feel like there are so many factors that could change, and we are just going with the flow.  I think we will probably have four, but we will see.  My three children are all about 2 years apart.  I think it is challenging to juggle them when they are small like this, but I think it will be worth it as they grow up to have siblings so close in age!

Nikki posted this 06 November 2019

I always pictured having 4! Currently, I'm pregnant with our second, so we'll see if we actually end up having 4 or not. I have 5 siblings, so I love the idea of my kids having several brothers/sisters.

Ashley posted this 06 November 2019

I think I'm going to be good with having 2! I always wanted at least 2 and my husband wants 2, so this will probably be our last baby. 

Victoria posted this 06 November 2019

I'm thinking 3...I have a daughter from previous relationship (she's 8) and my now-husband and I would like several. At least, that's what we're thinking right now I'm open to more than 3 if he is. 

Emily posted this 06 November 2019

Two so they can play with each other. And there's the rule of 3..... 2 are fine 4 are fine but 3 will gang up on one of them lol

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Hannah posted this 06 November 2019

It's up to you. I hope we have another one after a few years. I love babies and kids and I honestly really miss being pregnant

Liz posted this 06 November 2019

Just 2. 1 boy and 1 girl. Boy first so he can protect his baby sister 😉

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Madison posted this 07 November 2019

I have two that are pretty close in age and we are done. I'm not a fan of the baby stage!

I would have been fine with just one too, but hubby insisted on another. I was an only child, so dealing with siblings is a whole new realm for me. But it's almost been a year and I love seeing their bond already! But I don't think my sanity could handle another one (;

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Dre posted this 20 November 2019

I always thought 4, or maybe realistically 3 felt that was the number.  But life happens, married later than I thought, which shifted that plan (ok, fine) and now we are in our late 30s with 1 child.  We have agreed that if that is it, we are happy, but if there is another one perfect. Expectations don't get you too far sometimes.

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Brooke posted this 20 November 2019

We have 2, and I think it's perfect. I feel like once you go over that, you always have an odd man out. Things are always in two's rides, sharing a bed, etc. Plus then you need a bigger car and they out number you lol 

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Mary posted this 20 November 2019

I know i want more than 1 but I think 3 is a good amount for me! Accidents always happen though lol so we will see. 

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ellie posted this 21 November 2019

I would like to have 3!

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nat posted this 28 November 2019

we are ttc baby number 2 and i have no intention on stopping until i can't but hubs only wants 3 

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Cathy posted this 30 November 2019

I have a 9 month old right now. I would like two children. I have a boy and I want a girl. The hardest part of caring for my son is changing diapers. The smell is atrocious. lol I want to wait a few years before trying for the girl.

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Kim posted this 18 December 2019

I was an only child and didn't really mind it until I got older. I have two and I'm done!

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Kayla posted this 19 December 2019

I grew up the second of five and LOVED having a big family. There was always someone to play with and now we are all super close and holidays are very fun. My husband and I have settled on four. We have 2 right now, 2 years apart, and love that age gap. I was a little frazzled at first going from 1 to 2, but I feel like after the first couple months we had a pretty good routine down and I'm really enjoying it now.

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Lisa posted this 24 January 2020

I would love to have 4 kids, I come from a family of 3 and both my parents keep telling me not to stop at an odd number. they said one of us always felt left out. I dont remember that, but I would love to have a big family. 

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Stassi posted this 24 January 2020

I always say that I'd love to have 5 kids. I come from a family of 3, but both my parents come from families of 5. Holidays are always so much fun! 

Dre posted this 13 February 2020

1 for now, and maybe a second.  But just after getting married I already feel that pressure from family and that literally makes me want to say just 1 for now.  

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Libby posted this 15 February 2020

I'm an only child and right now have 2. I always thought I wanted 4 but I think we will probably have a 3rd and feel our family is complete. We love to travel and are very social people and we are ready to start doing big things with our family-this can be challenging while pregnant or nursing a newborn. 

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Heather posted this 16 February 2020

I have one. And, I only plan on having one. I feel like I can give my all to one while being a working mom and continue to live a life that also is enjoyable. I'd be far too financially strapped with more than one child. I think it just depends on your lifestyle and income. 

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Hannah posted this 18 February 2020

We wanted three and had three. We had a boy first. We were very young (teenagers) when he was born. We waited five years before having our second. We talked long before we had number two or number three to determine how many we wanted. We didn't care what the last two were girl/girl, boy/girl, girl/boy or boy/boy, we wanted healthy children close in age. Our last two ended up being two girls, 13 months apart. It was actually perfect for clothing and friendships. For a while we got away with a three-bedroom house, we did upgrade to a four-bedroom house so they all had their own room. I refused to buy a minivan, I've always driven a car. Let's be honest, kids are expensive. I'm very happy to with three. 

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Gina posted this 18 February 2020

I want four. I want them in two sets. Baby 1 and baby 2 close in age and wait about four years, followed by another two close in age. Maybe two dogs, two cats, and some fish too. I look forward to a full house.

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Marci posted this 18 February 2020

I always wanted 5, but then real life kicks in and you realize no way. But I have 4 and I love it. Seeing my kids interact as siblings and friends is amazing. 

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Rafaela posted this 18 February 2020

Love this post! So cool to see the variety of responses. We have three and are open to more, and I came from a family of three and we never had that feeling of being left out, and I've known families of four where one felt more distant, I think it really depends on the family and the kids. My daughter says she would like 7 siblings and has listed all the names for us : )

I really think three has been much, much easier than 1 or 2, especially with my fiery first two! I'm pretty sure my daughter would have been running the show if it hadn't been for my son, and the two of them would always be fighting if it weren't for my third. I love the attention they give the baby and each other.

Mary posted this 20 February 2020

I have 2, want more but have to figure out how that would be legistically possible! Our days are already so hectic. But when I watch the kids sleeping at night I smile and can't help but want another few. 

Alex posted this 20 February 2020

I've always wanted four but I think in reality three is more doable, especially financially lol.

Maggie posted this 20 February 2020

I think two. I couldn't imagine having a five-bedroom for my four kids. I think a three-bedroom house is reasonable.

Nicole posted this 21 February 2020

I have one child. I'd love to have another but can't due to medical reasons. I try to cherish every minute with him since I wont' be able to experience everything a second time around!

Destiny posted this 21 February 2020

I only want two children. I want to afford the things they need. I want to buy them a car and help them pay for college. I don't think I can do that with four or five kids. 

Jenny posted this 21 February 2020

I want two but we'll see after we have two if I want three. I'm scared to get my tubes tied, just in case I do want more children.

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