Going through a divorce with a one year old

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Nicole posted this 15 January 2020

So back in November, on my 30th birthday actually, I found out my husband of 7 years had been cheating on me and had a girlfriend. It was chaos for a couple weeks and now he is in jail for violating his probation. I have chosen to move forward with the divorce since he will be getting out in Feb and he still is dating her. I am trying my best to be civil, but it is hard. Anyone go through a divorce with a young child? What are some must haves I should put in the custody agreement? He is fine with me having full custody and he just wants weekend visits until he is in a better position to provide for her. Just want some advice.

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Rachelle posted this 26 January 2020

I don't have any advice, but I am sorry you're going through this. But it sounds like your divorce is going to be an amicable one, so that at least is a good thing.

Lisa posted this 25 January 2020

Is there a chance of reconciliation? or are you for sure done? I cant imagine what you are going through, but my heart is heavy for you. This is something that is gonna take time and baby steps. Divorce with kids is hard, I went through it, but I can tell you it gets better. One day you will wake up and it will all just feel better.

Denise posted this 23 January 2020

I was cheated on a while ago, thankfully we didnt have a baby yet. But we were able to work through it and be stronger for it. In your case, if it really is over and you two are parting ways, I suggest getting a lawyer and getting some advice on things like custody. I see so many people miss things and then have to go back to court over things they forgot to include. 

Susan posted this 20 January 2020

My heart breaks for you. I cant imagine how this is for you and your child. I think you are doing a great job wanting to be civil and keeping your emotions out of it. All I can say is stay strong and remember one day, this will be a distant memory and it wont hurt so bad. Try and co parent best you can and put your childs needs first.

Mel posted this 20 January 2020

I am so sorry this happened to you.  Not me, but have known a few people who have.  Overall, one way to go about the communication portion is to stay off of social media, and don't talk about it with people you do not trust. 

Char posted this 20 January 2020

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don't have any advice, just want to send you some warm wishes and good luck.